Mission Memphis Day 14: WriteMemphis

The Experience

One of the most intimidating things I can think of would be to write a poem and then read it to a group of strangers. It makes my heart race just to think about it. That’s why it’s so amazing to me that the talented staff and volunteers at WriteMemphis can convince teenagers to do that within the first 10 minutes.

When I asked Emma Connolly, the Director of WriteMemphis, about the purpose of their work, she said their goal is “to help inner city Memphians claim their voices through the power of creative writing. The process and method we use affirms every participant’s creative voice, and urges them to write their own story, explore their true self. Our method and writing prompts encourage writers to increase vocabulary and understand the breadth of words. We believe in ‘doing with’, not ‘doing for’.” This approach was clear and evidence in each of the two WriteMemphis events I experienced.

WriteMemphis Poetry Slam

I attended a Poetry Slam at the Central Library and  facilitator Troy Wiggins greeted me at the door. He explained that they “want students to create new work using their own unique voice – a voice that is often suppressed in other parts of their lives.” We talked at length about the value of helping students believe that their voice and their ideas are important. For these students, writing is a very powerful tool. I have never taken a creative writing or poetry class and the terms that were foreign to me (like “writing prompt”) seemed to be routine for the students.

During the meeting, we watched a short documentary called “As I Am“, which is narrated by Chris Dean. For those of you who don’t recognize his name, Chris Dean was the Valedictorian of Booker T. Washington High School and had the honor of introducing President Obama during his visit to Memphis. The video is a gritty look at a part of Memphis that most of us never see. It was meant to get the students talking and writing. It worked.

I was impressed with how quickly they shared their stories. After each person spoke, Troy would moderate the discussion and give feedback. Troy quickly impressed me with his quick and specific insight about each piece. Each time someone shared, I would still be processing what I’d heard, but Troy could immediately begin describing how it the piece resonated with him. It’s obvious that he loves this work and it has an impact on the students At the first meeting, they had two students and that quickly grew to 32! They seem to have leveled off with 11 dedicated students each week. I can’t wait to see what they write this month.

I also spent some time at the South Memphis Story Gathering project. This project gives students the opportunity to interview life-long residents of South Memphis and to document those stories in their own way. They students are not only responsible for writing the story, but they also created their own interview questions and conducted the interviews themselves. While this is teaching students invaluable writing skills, it’s also teaching them the skills they’ll need to connect with others in the world. But best of all, I love that the students were surprised and intrigued by the people they interviewed.

Dennis and Markia

One of the girls, Markia, told me that she was supposed to interview “Mrs. B” but Mrs. B “always looks very busy”. I’ve never met the lady Markia described, but the others in the grouped gave enthusiastic nods at this description. Markia worried that Mrs. B would be disinterested or too busy to talk, but instead found just the opposite: Mrs. B went into great detail describing a chocolate checkerboard cake from her childhood, which became the centerpiece of Markia’s story. I asked another student named Dennis about his interview experience and whether he had to ask a lot of questions in order to generate conversation. Before I could finish asking, Dennis was already shaking his head no – apparently Dennis had a talker! I was fortunate enough to see a clip of the interview that Dennis conducted and I saw what he meant – in the 10 minutes of video, Dennis only had a chance to ask two questions!

The most interesting part was simply talking with the students (I really should call them writers). They asked questions about how I write my blog and I asked them for advice as well! We talked about what it’s like to interview someone you don’t know and how long you wait between the interview and the writing. When they starting sharing stories about their interviews and reading their work, I could tell they were proud of what they were accomplishing. And the fact that they were sharing their ideas and worries with me –  letting an outsider into their world – that was humbling for me. Had the situation been reversed, it would have been difficult for me to share my thoughts, stories and worries face to face with people I barely knew. In that respect, these young writers are braver than I am. I learned a lot from them.

WriteMemphis creates a safe space for students to grow and develop their voice. In a world dominated by adults and rules, it gives them the freedom to experiment without fear of ridicule or criticism. Kristin Korneliussen has been working with these students for over a year and wants to show them that “writing can be powerful and fun. Writing is a totally different experience when you’re not being evaluated on it.” She also said she’s seen their confidence grow through this project. During the interviews, Kristin said she was proud to see the students take the lead and guide the conversations.

To say I “volunteered” with WriteMemphis is not fair, because I have to admit that I  learned more from the students than they did from me!

How to Help

You can volunteer with WriteMemphis even if you’re not a writing expert. They’ll pair you with an experienced instructor and give you the tools you need to help. If you have an interest in making students feel valued, this would be a perfect opportunity for you. Contact Emma Connolly emma@writememphis.org and she’ll help you find a place to make a contribution.

Keep up with their great work by following their blog (It’s great!) and by following them on Facebook.

Support their work! Read their poetry and essays, come to the Christmas play (original work of course) and definitely read the interviews and stories from the South Memphis Interview Project when they’re ready. Visit WriteMemphis for updates.

Donate! Just $10 buys a month’s worth of writing supplies for 5 students. A $50 donation will sponsor 5 middle-school girls to attend Summer Writing Camp.

Maybe you want to know more about volunteering with this organization or volunteering in general, but you aren’t quite ready to jump in. If so, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

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Mission Memphis Day 13: St. John’s Soup Kitchen

The Experience

When I first reached out to St. John’s United Methodist Church (also known as St. John’s Midtown) about volunteering this past Tuesday, LeeAnne Cox told me that Tuesdays at the soup kitchen are organized by students from Rhodes College. She put me in touch with their student coordinator to meet up and help that day. Since LeeAnne had never had the opportunity to work with the Rhodes students, she wanted to come too. The more the merrier!

I contacted Bailey Jones at Rhodes noticed two things right way – Bailey did a great job of making me feel welcome and she clearly had a process in place. She explained that we’d arrive early to start preparing the food and the guests would be welcomed shortly after that. I’d meet them at St. John’s and we’d go from there.

When I arrived at the church, I noticed that there were already quite a few people waiting for their chance to enter the warm dining room.  I felt awkward as I made my way through the group towards the locked doors. Even in my coat, I shivered from the cold and I noticed that many didn’t have warm clothes. It wasn’t lost on me that the person least in need of warmth would be the first one to receive it.

The atmosphere in the kitchen was a stark contrast to what I’d felt outside. Bailey and the other students did a great job of making me feel welcome and useful. For me, I hate down time when I’m volunteering because it makes me feel as though I’m not needed, but with this group, I always had a task, which I greatly appreciated.

Within five minutes of arriving, the team was bustling about – everyone had a job and seemed to be happy about doing it. One of the girls was in charge of sautéing onions and she was singing “It’s raining onions” to the tune of It’s Raining Men. It makes me smile just thinking about it. I watched as a meal for 80 people came together in less than an hour and I was inspired by their energy, efficiency and team work.  I marveled at Bailey’s confidence and diplomacy as she effortlessly delegated tasks to students and adults alike. Maybe she’ll give me some tips.

I had a chance to talk with Rhodes Sophomore, Mary Catherine Cadden. As best I could tell, Mary Catherine seemed to be Bailey’s second in command and I wanted to know why she was so dedicated to this work. Mary Catherine said “I feel really grateful for everything I have and this is my way of giving back. I also like building relationships with the guests and learning their stories.” While I was there, I noticed that many of the students took the time to chat with the people who came for dinner that night. I also had a chance to talk with LeeAnne and she seemed equally impressed by the students. When I asked about her own reasons for working at the soup kitchen, she explained that it’s about “building bridges within the community and connecting out to our neighbors.”  That seems to be a common theme of St. John’s extensive outreach programs.

Student volunteers from Rhodes College plus Officer Paul. Adil Khan, Javorah Davis, Maddie Carswile, Hayden Schill, Treston Norphlet, Mary Catherine Cadden, Eric Adamcik, Diego, Nolu Macilreith

As we set out coffee and lemonade, the dinner guests quickly filled the dining room and came up to the counter claim to their drinks. As each person took a cup, I had a chance to talk with everyone, which is my favorite part. You don’t get to have deep conversations in those few seconds, but there’s another kind of magic that happens in those small interactions. We’ve all done it – seen someone on the corner holding a cardboard sign, but we don’t know what it says because we look away. There are many in our city who feel invisible because we treat them that way. They’re intentionally unseen by the rest of society. Imagine yourself in their position. You’re homeless and looking for food. You’re hungry and tired. And you’re cold. Maybe you’re sick or maybe you’re limping. You’re trying to remember the last time you had a hot shower and daydreaming about the next time you’ll be clean and warm. And while you’re walking down the sidewalk, there’s a person walking towards you. That person spots you, maybe even catches your eye for a second, and then intentionally crosses the street just to avoid being near you. With no family or friends, everyone treats you like a leper even if your only disease is homelessness. That’s what I try to keep in mind each time I hand someone a cup of coffee. I look him in the eye. I smile. And then I say something kind. It might just be “how are you doing?” But I mean it. It might be “I like your Tigers hat”, but I mean that too. It might even be “thank you so much for being patient”, but I make an effort to say something to everyone. And just for a second, it makes the invisible feel real.

Here is where I feel the need to confess something. I want you to know that for the most part, people are extremely kind and gracious. Almost everyone is quick to say please, thank you, and God bless you. I can’t understate how much it warms my heart to help people like that. That’s what I hope you will take away from this post. But I want you to be prepared for the fact that there are people who will be grumpy. There are a few people who will be ungrateful and maybe even angry. I’ve worked with this population many times and I love doing it, but it’s still hard to get the occasional rude comment. Deep down, I think we’re looking for validation that we’re helping people and when someone is rude, it interferes with the search for our own warm fuzzies. I considered not writing this part, because I want you to see the good and positive side, but I know it’s important to share the hard parts of volunteering too, even if I’m worried about what you’ll do with that information. When you meet someone who is unkind, try to remember all the times you’ve been grumpy even though you have everything you need. When you have the opportunity to interact with those that are kind and gracious, I hope you’ll take a second to marvel at how incredible it is that someone who leads such a hard life still makes an effort to practice patience and gratitude.

How to Help

Volunteer at St. John’s. There are many ways to get involved with St. John’s outreach programs. The soup kitchen welcomes individuals and groups to volunteer. Contact LeeAnne Cox  at lcox@BPJLAW.com for more information. For other ways to get involved, check out their impressive list of outreach programs. It’s no wonder that the wonderful Scott Morris of the Church Health Center is affiliated with this group. (P.S. If you’ve never spent time with Dr. Morris, you’re missing out!)

Donate. As always – any amount welcome!

If you’re looking for a way to volunteer in the area of hunger and homelessness, this is a great way to get started.

Maybe you want to know more about volunteering with this organization or volunteering in general, but you aren’t quite ready to jump in. If so, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

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Mission Memphis Day 12: LaunchMemphis

The Experience

One of the goals I had for Mission Memphis was to show the wide range of volunteer opportunities in our community. In general, I think many people have specific ideas about what constitutes a typical experience for a volunteer. I want to challenge those perceptions.

If you ask entrepreneurs where to turn for start up resources in Memphis, they’ll likely point you to LaunchMemphis. This organization focuses on cultivating young start ups and developing an entrepreneurial community in Memphis in order to help new businesses succeed. Before you’re ready for a small-business incubator, before you’re ready to seek investors, this is where you can go to get started.

In addition, it just so happens that this is Global Entrepreneurship Week, which means that LaunchMemphis is buzzing with even more activity than usual (see their calendar of events for the full list). During my time at LaunchMemphis this week, I had the opportunity to attend Pitch Perfect, where budding entrepreneurs revealed their business plans and prototypes to a diverse panel of experts. Each presenter left the room with actionable suggestions – what to keep, what to change, but most importantly, how to improve.

While I was there, I saw one presentation in particular that caught my eye from a volunteer and service perspective. An organization called Need Registry provides a service for those who could use some help from family and friends while they’re going through a tough time. It enables friends and families to donate money or services (think house cleaning or yard care) so the recipient can focus on recovering and healing.

I would venture to say that no experience with LaunchMemphis is ever the same. If you’re looking for a dynamic environment with ever-changing options, this is the place to be. This approach might sound a little overwhelming and the entrepreneurial world can seem daunting if you’re just becoming familiar with it; however, LaunchMemphis is currently at work on their own prototype – revamping the volunteer experience. CEO and President of LaunchMemphis, Eric Mathews, knows that volunteering with this group may seem intimidating, but he wants to make it accessible: “We’re in the process of building a new volunteer program so that everyone feels welcome to contribute and become involved with LaunchMemphis”.  In addition, Andre Fowlkes, Co-President indicated that they’re working towards building and cultivating a core group of volunteers to help fuel LaunchMemphis.

How to Help

Volunteer at LaunchMemphis:

  • Volunteer at events
  • Help with fundraising efforts
  • Become a mentor. If you’ve gained experience in the business world or through your own entrepreneurial ventures, you might be the perfect fit for their Memphis Venture Mentors Platform
  • Be an ambassador. Be part of an informal marketing team to carry the message into the community.
  • Participant in events (ex: 48 Hour Launch)
  • Be their champion. This is for those looking to help LaunchMemphis build their connections.

Donate to LaunchMemphis:

  • Donate the traditional way
  • Provide in-kind donations for the LaunchPad
  • Connect them with angel investors

Take advantage of their events and programs:

For more information about donating or volunteering with LaunchMemphis, contact Eric Mathews eric@launchmemphis.com

Maybe you want to know more about volunteering with this organization or volunteering in general, but you aren’t quite ready to jump in. If so, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

What comes after the 30 Days of Mission Memphis?  Volunteer Bound! I’m traveling across the country to promote volunteerism and I want to take you with me!

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Mission Memphis Day 11: Memphis Empty Bowls Project

The Experience

Let me just tell you. I LOVE the Memphis Empty Bowls Project. By first year standards  By any standards, I’d call it a huge success. They had at least 60 volunteers with more waiting in the wings, the tickets sold out days before the event, the leftover soup was donated to families in need, they raised $18,000 to fight hunger in the Mid-South, and perhaps most importantly, they raised awareness about the staggering number of men, women and children whose bowls are empty every day.

When I first reached out to the team at the Memphis Empty Bowls Project, I got the chance to talk with Ashley Baker, their volunteer coordinator. Ashley did everything right – she got back to me right away, she was genuinely enthusiastic about the project, and she made me feel like a superhero for signing up to help.  In terms of the volunteers themselves, I have never seen such a positive, hard-working group of people! Even after the official shifts had ended, dozens of people stayed to help clean up. Ashley will probably tell you it’s because she bribed everyone with cookies (true story), but I’m sure the volunteers will tell you it’s because they felt helpful, invested, and appreciated. Based on this success and the fact that I met Ashley’s husband, mom, dad, and grandmother at the event, I would say that Ashley is a natural recruiter!

In the days leading up to the event, I also talked with one of the co-chairs, Sarah Ranson. I liked her right away. Maybe it comes with the name, but Sarah and I talked at length about issues related to hunger and access to food. I asked her about her hopes for the event and what message she wanted each person to take away. She said, “When you leave here with your empty bowl, we hope it reminds you of all the people who are food insecure.” A very simple, but very powerful message.

Memphis Empty Bowls Display

When I walked up the stairs at the Church Health Center, I turned the corner and saw rows and rows of beautiful handmade bowls. The team collected bowls from potters, artists, and students. In total, they had more than 300 one-of-a-kind bowls at the event. Each attendee had the opportunity to select a bowl to use at dinner.  Each person selected a bowl and brought it into the dining area where they could sample soup and bread from 14 different restaurants in the Memphis area. To see everyone who donated, check out their list of supporters.  After dinner, each person took their bowl home as a souvenir/reminder of all who go hungry each day.

Banner: 1 out of every 5 people in Shelby County experiences food insecurity.

I also want to commend the team for tying their mission into the event so seamlessly. I’ve been to many events where the volunteers and the guests are never fully clued in to the mission and the purpose behind the gala/race/party, etc.  Too often, everyone gets wrapped up in the event itself, and the spirit is forgotten. At Empty Bowls, there were reminders everywhere – from the banner at the front door and the mid-meal announcement, to the bowls themselves, the message was clear for the adults.

Many people brought their kids to the event, which is wonderful and I’d like to challenge them to go a step further: Use this event and the bowls themselves as a teaching opportunity. Try the message today. If they’re too young, try it again tomorrow. Try it again the next time you see the bowl. But starting young makes a big impression.  When I was about 8 years old, my parents talked to me very directly about who goes hungry and why. I was aware of our local food pantry. I had even helped collect the food, but I still needed them to connect the dots for me. (You can read the whole story in an earlier post: The Distance from Here to There). My parents did that for me at a young age, and I hope that the parents from this event will take this opportunity to teach their own children about philanthropy and empathy.

Thanks to the Empty Bowls team, there are at least 300 bowls in this city that will serve as long lasting reminders of how fortunate we are to be able to fill our own bowls and the responsibility we have to fill bowls for those who cannot fill their own. When I look at my own bowl from the event, I’ll think of all the people who go hungry each night and of all the parents who worry about how to feed their children. I’ll feel more grateful for all that I have and I’ll be even more motivated to fight hunger in Memphis. I hope your bowl does the same for you.

Thank you, Empty Bowls team, for all that you have done to feed Memphis!

How to Help

Join the team. The Memphis Empty Bowls team is looking to add a few good people to their long-term planning team. It’s a long term commitment, but very rewarding!

Paint, sculpt or donate a bowl! They are already collecting bowls for next year’s event. Every bowl donated can provide up to 40 meals!  If you’re new to the whole bowl making thing, you don’t have to make one from scratch. Check out their supporters page to see where you can paint and donate a bowl for just $10!

If you’re looking for ongoing volunteer opportunities in this area, consider volunteering at one of the many soup kitchens or food pantries in the Memphis area.  Consider one of the many outreach options at St. John’s United Methodist Church in Midtown, Memphis Union Mission, or the Mid-South Food Bank.

Sponsor or attend next year’s event. I’m sure next year will be even bigger and better! Check out their sponsorship page for more information.

If you want to know more about volunteering, but aren’t quite ready to jump in, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

What comes after the 30 Days of Mission Memphis?  Volunteer Bound! I’m traveling across the country to promote volunteerism and I want to take you with me!

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Mission Memphis Day 10: Overton Park Conservancy

 The Experience

Overton Park Conservancy hosted A Magical Night in Overton Park, which was a nighttime fundraiser held in their formal gardens. I was intrigued by the event invitation, which said, “Prepare to be bewitched by one of our city’s treasures.” I volunteered to help set up for their event that evening. Even in the daylight, it was obvious the final product would be incredible.

A Magical Night at Overton Park

When I pulled up to the event I saw a familiar face. Scout Anglin spotted me and asked if I would help her carry some “stuff” from her car up to the event. The car door swung open to reveal 20 pizzas for the volunteers! Already off to a good start!

We dropped off the pizza and I had a chance to chat with some of the other volunteers. For example, I met Emily Smith – Emily is new to Memphis and her goal is to volunteer once a week. But I’ll let you in on a little secret. I know for a fact she volunteered twice just this weekend! She said that she and her husband really like Memphis because everyone has been very friendly and welcoming. So, Emily (and husband), welcome to Memphis! I also had a chance to meet Daniel Atlas: firefighter/paramedic by trade and volunteer extraordinaire in his spare time. He seems to be a jack of all trades and in addition to his work with the Overton Park Conservancy, donates his time generously to Roots Memphis and BRIDGES. Thank you both for all that you do!

Event set up

I also had the opportunity to talk with the Director of Volunteers and Events, Susan Green. Considering the fact that Susan was prepping to host a high profile event in just a few hours, she was very laid back and chatted with me at length about the mission of the Conservancy and the goals for the event. When I thanked her for spending so much time with me, she quickly pointed out that it was possible because of the wonderful volunteers who had worked so hard in the morning. “Because of our great volunteers we’re way ahead of schedule,” she told me. Susan is very knowledgeable about the park and told me several interesting facts. First, I learned that the money from the event would go towards a brand new state of the art playground in Overton Park.  Intrigued, I pressed her for details, but she gave up little else, saying only, “It’ll be like nothing you’ve ever seen!” She also said that the park has a veteran’s memorial, which displays the names of every Shelby County veteran who died in battle. Next time you’re in the park, keep an eye out for both of these.

I also asked Susan about the importance of the park and the volunteers. She told me that most life-long Memphians can tell stories about coming to the park with family and friends over the years. She said the future holds great things for the park: “It’s all coming together and there are big things on the horizon.” In terms of the volunteers, Susan said they’re building a group of “core volunteers.” She explained, “we’re cultivating relationships with our volunteers – we want them to be part of a team and to take ownership over the park and help us develop its true potential.” Her parting message was simple: “We hope our volunteers can say they had a good time, felt like their work made a difference, met new friends, and will spread the word about the park.” Sounds good! Sign me up!

How to Help

Volunteer!

  • Sign up to volunteer for events throughout the year
  • Be an Educational Programs Volunteer and lead kids on tours of the old forest
  • Participate in regular gardening activities
  • Join TOP – Team Overton Park. This group acts as informal park rangers – keeping an eye out for anything amiss in the park and reporting back to the office
  • Take advantage of volunteer opportunities for groups and families.
  • Email Susan Green at sgreen@overtonpark.org to learn more about Overton Park’s events and volunteer opportunities

Donate! There are many donation options and every bit helps!

Become a Member! Your membership gets you some cool Overton Park gear like t-shirts and bumper stickers, while also supporting the park.

Just visit! Come explore the park and all that it has to offer! Check out the Shell, the golf course, the playground or the new dog park. Come see why Overton Park is called the “Memphis gem.”

If you want to know more about volunteering, but aren’t quite ready to jump in, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

What comes after the 30 Days of Mission Memphis?  Volunteer Bound! I’m traveling across the country to promote volunteerism and I want to take you with me!

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Mission Memphis Day 9: Sunny Meadows

The Experience

Growing up, we always had a dog. Tonka was with us the longest (about 18 years), and she was incredibly smart. All of our dogs over the years came from adoption groups. My dad always said that these made the best dogs because they knew that they had been rescued. At Sunny Meadows, I saw many dogs and cats looking for their forever homes.

While I was there, Beth Walker gave me a tour and introduced me to the animals. After spending just a few minutes with Beth, it’s obvious that she’s an animal lover. She’s taken many of the shelter’s pets home to foster them and even takes some of these to the dog park. In addition to working, Beth is also finishing her degree in Criminal Justice. When I asked her what she plans to do after school, I was impressed to find out that she wants to start her own division of animal cops in Memphis. She told me that she’s seen so many of these animals rescued from terrible conditions, and she wants to do more to protect the pets in our area. Go Beth!

Volunteers at Sunny Meadows get to focus on playing with the animals and the staff takes care of everything else. “We just need people to love on the animals” Beth Walker told me. Sunny Meadows has no shortage of animals in need of attention: with more than 150 dogs and 30 cats, the lean staff spends so much of their time on maintenance that there’s little time left to play with them. That’s where the volunteers step in.

While I was there, I played with several dogs. One of these, Dusty, was a big sweetheart. He was clearly happy to have company and was a good sport in front of the camera. He was rescued from the streets, and this once thin, shy dog is healthy, happy, and energetic.

Cats at Sunny Meadows

I also spent some time with the cats while I was there. These were a little harder for me to keep straight but it’s obvious that some of them are very friendly. I walked into the cat room with Beth and she told me that it was easy to spot the friendly ones – you just had to take a seat on the couch.

If you’re an animal lover, you’ll find the perfect volunteer opportunity at Sunny Meadows. If you’re looking to add a furry addition to your family, you’ll find that here too!

How to Help

Volunteer! Sunny Meadows is always looking for animal lovers to spend some quality time with the pets.

Adopt! There are lots of animals who would be happy to join your family!

You can also contact Katey at volunteers@sunnymeadows.org for more information!

If you want to know more about volunteering, but aren’t quite ready to jump in, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

What comes after the 30 Days of Mission Memphis?  Volunteer Bound! I’m traveling across the country to promote volunteerism and I want to take you with me!

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Mission Memphis Day 8: Meals on Wheels with MIFA

 The History

My relationship with MIFA started a long time ago. As December approached in my  junior year of high school, my family and friends would ask what I wanted for Christmas. Something about that idea bothered me. I was asking for things I wanted rather than things that I needed. The truth was that I had everything I needed. So when someone asked what I wanted for Christmas, I decided to start small – peace and harmony all over the world. Should be a piece of cake! Initially, my friend Amanda came closest to granting this wish when she presented me with peas and hominy (corn). Yes, Amanda, I still remember the peas and hominy!

My church in high school hosted a pre-Christmas dance called Snowball, which was always well attended. This particular year, I was shocked when Santa himself showed up (stag) for the festivities. As I watched, he walked up to the stage, took the microphone and asked for me to come up and join him. Now for those of you who know me, it’s easy to image the brilliant shade of red that spread across my face. Santa told me that my friends had pooled their money together and made a donation to MIFA in my honor.

Everyone who donated to MIFA for my Christmas wish

In total there were almost 50 people who contributed and signed their names my giant poster-sized card. I was overwhelmed by their generosity and thoughtfulness. To this day, I still have difficulty fully describing how meaningful that moment was. So to all of you who helped and donated, thank you!  I still have the poster you signed!

This week, I visited MIFA and I’m happy to report: your money has been put to good use!

The Experience

MIFA’s volunteer coordinator, Charlie Nelson, has the right idea. She told me she wants the volunteers to feel valued and useful. Considering that fact that she gave up her office to get space for a volunteer training room, I think she means it! I learned that MIFA has more than 2,700 volunteers and in total, they have donated 135,000 hours of service to MIFA. According to Charlie, it’s this level of dedication and commitment that enables them to keep overhead low and effectively operate their programs focused on hunger and homelessness. When I asked her about their biggest need for volunteers, I was surprised to learn that Meals on Wheels is in desperate need of people to deliver food across this city. I suppose this surprised me for several reasons: it’s a well-known program and frankly, it’s fun!

Me and my buddy Charlie McCrary

Here’s where you get to meet the second Charlie of the day! Charlie McCrary has been delivering meals on Tuesdays and Thursdays for two years now and I was lucky enough to have the opportunity to ride with Charlie on his route that day. “Come with me!” he said cheerfully. He gathered the meals for his deliveries and I followed him out to his car – a hybrid with a Wolf River Conservancy sticker on the back bumper. “Charlie, you’re full of surprises,” I told him. “You think so?” he asked. We loaded up the car and drove out to a section of North Memphis I’d never seen before.  As we tracked down each house, Charlie mentioned that many of them are easy to spot because of the new ramps (another service of MIFA). Sure enough, we pulled up to a house with a brand new ramp out front. As we walked up to the door it swung open and a young woman profusely thanked her for dropping off lunch for her mother.  We followed our (very detailed) directions to the next house and I could hear the TV from the street! We knocked loudly and an older woman answered the door wearing an oversized “World’s Best Mom” t-shirt. She had the heat cranked up and it was obvious she wanted us to stay and visit. As we talked with her, Charlie asked how she was doing today. Her face lit up and she told us “I’m wonderful! Everyday is wonderful and I’m always good. Always good no matter what!” I want to be around more people like that!

As we wrapped up our route, Charlie pointed to his University of Memphis hangtag. He told me that seniors over 60 can audit classes for free at the university! His wife has taken at least 10 and this semester he’s thoroughly enjoying his History of Africa course because, among other reasons, “the professor is awesome.”  Charlie’s phone rang and he answered it through his car’s speaker system (something I have yet to master). He and his friend discussed plans to visit Mister Hat and meet for lunch in Cooper Young. The more I learned about Charlie and his awesome hat, the more I liked him! I asked if I could write about him for this blog post and he asked, “What would you want to do that for?” I have always suspected that volunteering keeps you young and sharp. I’d like to submit Charlie as exhibit A.

With the help of volunteers like Charlie and the awesome coordination skills of Meals on Wheels leader Rick Finkey, MIFA delivers 1,800 a day to seniors and home-bound residents in our community, but they’re short 35 slots in November. Rick told me that children are welcome to accompany their parents on deliveries and that many of the Meals on Wheels recipients consider the company of children to be as good as the food.  Volunteers as young as 16 can sign up to deliver meals with a valid driver’s license, insurance, and parents’ permission.

For many who receive the Meals on Wheels, the MIFA volunteer is their only point of human contact for the whole day. How many days could you sit in your home by yourself without seeing another person? Many are lonely and look forward to talking with the volunteers and building relationships. Some of the volunteers have been working their same route for 20 years! Sign up once and you’ll be hooked like I was! Maybe I’ll be writing about you and your awesome hat 20 years from now.

How to Help

Volunteer! You can:

  • Sign up to deliver Meals on Wheels! You can go everyday or just once a month. If you’re looking for an easy way to get started, they desperately need people to deliver meals the week between Christmas and New Years. If you have kids, take them with you! Ideally, corporate teams take a day and the shifts rotate throughout the year. Some corporate teams even have group meetings in the car while they’re out delivering! You can also request short routes so you can squeeze in some volunteer time on your lunch break. The whole process takes 1-2 depending on the length of the route and the friendliness of the clients : )
  • Work as a handyman (building ramps and doing other needed tasks).
  • Assemble a holiday hope chest.
  • Be a senior companion. If you or someone you know is over the age of 60, with free  time and some good stories, they’d make the perfect Senior Companion.

Donate! You could consider making a family donation during the holidays (as my friends did) in place of traditional gifts. Big or small, your donation will be used carefully and for a great cause!

Get involved:

  • Order your Holiday Cards from MIFA
  • Attend on of their fundraising events like the awesome Feed the Soul event each fall.
  • Bring your kids to sensitivity training! Many people have asked me how to get their kids involved and teach them about caring for others. On December 15th, MIFA will host a sensitivity class where they teach kids about aging and disabilities. They’ll wear glasses covered in vaseline to simulate vision loss and they’ll try to accomplish tasks from a wheelchair. After their training, take them out to Meals on Wheels or a nursing home to put their new knowledge into practice.

Contact Charlie Nelson at cnelson@mifa.org for information about sensitivity training.

For information about Meals on Wheels, email Rick Finkey at rfinkey@mifa.org

If you want to know more about volunteering, but aren’t quite ready to jump in, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

What comes after the 30 Days Mission Memphis?  Volunteer Bound! I’m traveling across the country to promote volunteerism and I want to take you with me!

MIFA’s volunteers have the biggest hearts

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Mission Memphis Day 7: Memphis Union Mission

The Experience

From the minute I walked into the Memphis Union Mission, I knew I would have a lot to write.

The Memphis Union Mission provides a range of services including day shelters, emergency shelters and affordable short-term housing. I was there to help with serving lunch for 200 people that day. “We’re not a soup kitchen” the Reverend Randy Daniels said to me. “We eat well around here!” and he was right – the kitchen smelled like gumbo and corn bread. There were several guys toiling in the kitchen like a well-oiled machine – hard at work making lunch for the 200 “transient guests” as Randy calls them. I met Mark – a very helpful and energetic man running the kitchen. I also met Don, who was quiet, polite, and very hard working. He stopped working only long enough to give me a kind smile and a nod of his head. Don has been through the programs at Memphis Union Mission and he’s currently looking for a job to start rebuilding his life. Maybe you know the perfect opportunity for him.

Randy is very direct about their mission – they are a gospel rescue mission and they actively promote their faith to guests and volunteers alike; however, you’ll find a meaningful experience here even if you don’t share their religion. Some religious outreach groups require volunteers to sign a statement of faith, but Memphis Union Mission welcomes everyone regardless of their beliefs. When I first reached out to Randy for an interview he agreed quickly. And just as quickly, mentioned that he’d like me to attend chapel before lunch. Well played, Randy. I wanted to immerse myself in the experience so I went. I’m glad I did.

There’s a single room that serves as a chapel, dining hall, and overnight shelter. I sat in the very back of the room and slowly took in the place and people around me. The room was packed, but also calm and peaceful. I had a lot of time to reflect.

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Chapel at Memphis Union Mission

I looked out over the bowed heads and was overwhelmed by the reality of what I saw. Everyone in this room has a hard life and a story about how they came to be in one of these white folding chairs. I scanned the crowd and saw men in wheelchairs. Women with babies. Families with no home.

I thought about the services they offered and about all the mouths to feed. Unintentionally, I smiled weakly knowing that each person would have at least one warm meal today. I thought again about the smell of gumbo and cornbread…and realized I was hungry. I’d forgotten to eat breakfast and my stomach was growling. Loudly. No wonder I was thinking about the kitchen. As I sat there, willing my stomach to quiet, my mind wandered to myself. Why did I skip breakfast? I always make a point to eat breakfast so I can concentrate. My stomach growled again. What did I want to eat? I started thinking through my list of favorite lunch spots. And then I stopped. And I felt ashamed. Even sitting among those who were truly hungry, I had taken my situation for granted. Not only do I know where my next meal will come from, but I get to choose! I was taking my situation for granted while those around me were struggling. Everyone is this room is wondering where to find food today, where to find shelter tonight, and where they will find the strength to do it again tomorrow.

In minutes, the chapel was cleared away and transformed in to a cafeteria, which is when I met nine-year-old Micah Douglass. Micah and his classmates from the Bartlett Home School Association volunteered to help that day. Micah and I worked side by side in the serving line and with the help of the other volunteers, we fed 200 people in 20 minutes. Afterward, I asked Micah what he thought about the experience. After giving it some thought, he answered slowly and thoughtfully, “I felt like I was taking care of them and it made me feel like I was part of them.” I was touched by how profound he was. Empathy at an early age. Micah’s dad Chris told me that he wants to show his son that there’s more than just Micah’s world. Chris said, “We want to give him an understanding of what opportunities are out there to cultivate his interest in volunteering. We want to know what issues are important to him.” I asked Micah if he would like to come back and do this again. Micah gave me a big smile and his dad looked just as proud. I think we have a new volunteer on our hands.

We are so programmed to expect the “basics” in life that we lose sight of the fact that basics for some are true luxuries for others. Are you hungry right now? You can change that. Are you warm right now? You’re fortunate! You have more than everyone in that room. Yet in that room there was still hope! Hope of finding a job, hope of seizing a new opportunity, and hope of building a better future.

How to Help

Volunteer! This is a great opportunity for individuals, corporations, families and groups.

Donate coats! Memphis Union Mission is in desperate need of men’s coats right now. Randy told me that many people organize coat drives, but it’s often January before the donations arrive. If you have a coat, please drop it off. Better yet, call 2 friends and ask them to donate too.

Donate money! Just $1.67 provides a meal. Could you find a meal for that same amount? $20.00 provides an ingenious coupon book for the homeless, which can be exchanged for food and other services.

Learn about how to help panhandlers. Read these guidelines and learn the facts: Should you give money? Are emergency shelters free to the homeless?

If you want to volunteer, contact Rev Randy Daniels at rdaniels@memphisunionmission.org

If you want to know more about volunteering, but aren’t quite ready to jump in, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

What comes after the 30 Days Mission Memphis?  Volunteer Bound! I’m traveling across the country to promote volunteerism and I want to take you with me!

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Mission Memphis Day 6: Caterpillar Club at Memphis Botanic Garden

The Experience

I signed up to volunteer with the Caterpillar Club at the Memphis Botanic Gardens. The Caterpillar Club is a program for toddler and pre-schoolers that encourages creativity, singing, and cooperation for young kids. The “Guest House” was adorable, open, sunny space and well-appointed for all types of crafts and learning opportunities.

Drew Massengale models his turkey Sue during the Caterpillar Club at the Memphis Botanic Gardens

Drew and his turkey Sue at Memphis Botanic Gardens

I worked with Drew Massengale and helped the kids assemble their turkeys, which Drew modeled for the camera.

While working with Drew I realized something profound. I love to be praised like a 4-year-old : ) I lost count of how many times Drew told me “thank you”, “awesome job”, and, my favorite, “you’re such a good helper.” It’s been a long time since I wielded a glue gun and even when I hot glued myself to a turkey, Drew managed a kind word of encouragement. (Thanks, Drew!)

I would be remiss if I did not mention Page McCoy. Page is the volunteer coordinator for the garden and she was my first point of contact for this experience. She got back to me right away and made a point of telling me how much they appreciate their volunteers. She explained that they need volunteers in order to put on their fundraising events throughout the year and the math was simple, “Volunteers enable us to host these events and to raise the funds we need to keep offering our programs.” While talking with Page, a sign on her desk caught my eye. A well-sited statistic is that a volunteer’s time is worth over $21 an hour, but as evidenced by this picture, Page disagrees. I like her message! At Memphis Botanic Garden, volunteers are priceless!

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At Memphis Botanic Garden volunteers are priceless!

If you’re looking for a fun experience with a great team, this is the perfect place to volunteer!

How to Help

Volunteer! The Memphis Botanic Gardens is always looking for volunteers to help with their events. If you like plants and gardening you’d be the perfect horticulture volunteer. If you’re into building and designing (yes!) join their holiday build team! Surely someone wants to help me build a giant snow globe! Many people have asked me about good volunteer opportunities for kids. Some of these events would be a great fit. Talk to Page about good options for different ages.

Come to a fundraiser! Check out their event calendar. You’ll definitely find me at Snowy Nights playing with their giant light brite!

Donate. As always any amount is appreciated!

Contact the wonderful Page McCoy at page.mccoy@memphisbotanicgarden.com to feel priceless!

Memphis Botanic GardenIf you’re thinking about volunteering with this organization or in general, but aren’t quite ready to jump in, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

What comes after the 30 Days of Mission Memphis?  Volunteer Bound! I’m traveling across the country to promote volunteerism and I want to take you with me!

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Mission Memphis Day 5: BRIDGES USA

The Experience

Sometimes I wonder about who our future leaders will be. I think about our high school students and I try to envision who they are and how they will shape our world. Are they passionate? Are they inquisitive? Driven? Tolerant? I have wondered what these young minds will bring when they become the leaders of our world. Yesterday I realized something. They already are leaders. Last night, I saw the future. And the future is awesome.

I still remember how I felt as a high school student – I wanted to contribute, but felt that “adults” overlooked and underestimated me. At BRIDGES I saw a completely different experience. I met with Julia McWhirter, the Director of Community Engagement and she explained that the mission of BRIDGES is to “build a community of leaders to advance racial, economic, educational and environmental justice.” They recruit students of all races, religions, and backgrounds to join together and become a true team. BRIDGES gives students a place to “find their voice, experience their power and build positive relationships in order to create strong lives and extraordinary communities.” This approach was evidence in every aspect of the Bridge Builders program I saw last night.

Peace Room at BRIDGES USA

Peace room at BRIDGES USA. Volunteering Day 5

BRIDGES provides a dedicated working space for the students to gather and carry out a range of projects related to social improvement. A common term for the space would be war room, but instead the students call it their “Peace Room.”

Janay (left) and Ieshia (right)

Janay (left) and Ieshia (right) at BRIDGES USA.

During the course of the evening, I also meant two incredible volunteers – Janay Stewart (University of Memphis) and Ieshia Hoye (Rhodes College). These two have devoted their time to working with the Bridge Builders. I asked Janay what inspires her to give so much of her time and she answered instantly, “As long as you can reach one and make a difference for one person, it’s worth it.” Ieshia said that she enjoys the relationship building with the students and likes that they’ll confide their ideas and struggles with her. And ultimately, they both agree that it’s just as much fun for the students as it is for the facilitators.

The programming for Monday night centered on understanding the role and function of presidential debates. The students participated in a mock debate – opening statements, points, counterpoints, rebuttals, and closing arguments were presented. I was blown away by the thoughtful responses and thoroughness of their answers.

Bridges Mock Presidential Debate

Bridge Builders Presidential Debate

While they did an excellent job, I was most impressed with how the students approached controversial topics and differences of opinions. It’s clear that they have been taught to respect each others opinions even when they have disagreements. They managed to discuss topics related to job creation, business growth, national defense, immigration and healthcare in a way that was calm and respectful. These students effortlessly demonstrated skills that elude many adults.

During the course of the evening, I talked with their wonderful staff members and the dedicated volunteers. But I wondered – what would the students have to say about their experience? I had the opportunity to ask a few questions, just hoping that one or two students would share some feedback. So I asked, “What you do you like about Bridge Builders?”, and their hands shot into the air! I couldn’t write fast enough to take down all of the incredible things they told me:

“It forces us to think about how I find my information. It’s hard to find unbiased facts, but now I know to look for them.”

“It’s a safe place to express myself” – Kayla

“I get the opportunity to meet new people from different backgrounds focus on a common goal and come out of our shells.”

“I have the chance to meet a diverse group of other students and see people I already know, but in a new light.” – Joelle

“The facilitators know what they’re talking about and I feel like they want me to really understand it.” – Kalil

“It’s fun and we get to talk about things that we don’t get to talk about normally.”

If it were up to me, every student would participate in Bridge Builders. In part, it’s up to me. But it’s also up to you.

How to Help:

Sponsor a student! It costs about $525 for one student to participate in the year-long Bridge Builders program. You can donate and grant this opportunity for one bright young mind in Memphis.

Attend an event. BRIDGES has numerous fundraising events throughout the year. I’m kicking myself for missing Cory Booker last month! In the future, you’ll definitely find me at ClimBRIDGES!

Volunteer! Become part of the BRIDGES Corps. Check out their video about the experience.

Spread the word! BRIDGES used to be limited to high school juniors and seniors, but they recently expanded, which is great news! Now 6th-12th grades can experience BRIDGES in several ways: Attend CONNECT events (one-day programs) or apply for their year-long Bridge Builders program.

Website: BRIDGESUSA.org

Facebook: facebook.com/BRIDGESUSA

Twitter: @BRIDGESUSA

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If you’re thinking about volunteering with this organization or in general, but aren’t quite ready to jump in, email me at sarah.petschonek@gmail.com. Thinking about helping is the first step!

What comes after the 30 Days of Mission Memphis?  Volunteer Bound! I’m traveling across the country to promote volunteerism and I want to take you with me!

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